Hey Lady,
Let’s flip the script for a second.
What if I told you the best time to start foreplay wasn’t after dinner, when the kids are in bed and the TV is humming in the background… but at breakfast?
I’m talking about planting little seeds of romance the second the sun comes up. Before the day swallows you whole with emails, errands, and “what’s for dinner?” conversations.
Because here’s the truth: the real magic in a relationship doesn’t happen when you’re rushing to get “in the mood” at 10:30 p.m. The magic happens when you’ve been building that mood all day long.
That’s what I call romance in reverse—starting the spark early, so by the time evening rolls around, the connection feels natural, electric, and effortless.
Let’s talk about how to make that happen.
Foreplay Is More Than Touch—It’s Energy
We’ve been taught to think of foreplay as a warm-up before the “main event.” But love, real foreplay is everything that happens before the bedroom.
It’s that wink from across the kitchen counter.
It’s the way they squeeze your hand while you’re waiting for coffee.
It’s that text in the middle of the workday that simply says, “Thinking about you.”
When you start your day with a little playful energy, you’re telling your partner, “We’re not just doing life together—we’re still seeing each other.” And that feeling? It’s priceless.
Breakfast: Where the Mood Begins
Now, I’m not saying you need to break out lingerie while scrambling eggs (though if you want to, you have my full support).
But imagine this:
You wake up a few minutes early. Instead of immediately diving into the “go-go-go” of the morning rush, you greet each other warmly. Maybe you brush hands while pouring coffee. Maybe you share a long kiss before heading out the door—one of those slow, no-rush kisses that says, I’m glad you’re mine.
You slip in a little compliment:
“That shirt brings out your eyes.”
Or, “You smell amazing—what is that?”
Small gestures like this turn your morning from autopilot into an intimate moment. And when you leave the house feeling seen, desired, and appreciated… you carry that glow all day.
Keep the Flirt Going All Day
Think of foreplay like a thread you keep weaving throughout the day.
- 🌸 Send a quick voice note instead of a text—your voice carries warmth a screen can’t.
- 🌸 Share an inside joke from last night to make them smile mid-meeting.
- 🌸 Slip in a playful suggestion about “continuing this later” to keep their mind on you.
When you create these tiny touchpoints, you’re building anticipation—without any pressure. You’re reminding each other that you’re more than roommates or co-parents—you’re still lovers.
Why This Works (Especially in Long-Term Relationships)
Life happens. Work deadlines, grocery lists, school drop-offs—sometimes intimacy gets pushed to the bottom of the priority list.
But here’s the beautiful part: intimacy isn’t just physical. It’s emotional, mental, and yes, sometimes logistical.
When you start “romance in reverse,” you’re giving your relationship micro-doses of connection that build up into something bigger. By the time evening rolls around, you’ve already been in a loving, flirty mindset all day—so intimacy feels less like flipping a switch and more like a natural next step.
Romance Without the Pressure
One of the biggest benefits of this breakfast-to-bedtime approach?
It takes the pressure off.
When you’re only trying to create connection in a small, set window at night, it can feel like all or nothing. But when you’ve been connecting all day, the stakes feel lower and the fun feels higher.
Sometimes it leads to fireworks in the evening. Sometimes it leads to curling up on the couch together, totally content. Either way—you’ve strengthened the bond.
Easy Ways to Start Tomorrow Morning
- Touch with intention. Brush your hand along their back as you pass, squeeze their shoulder, or tuck their hair behind their ear.
- Make eye contact. Not the distracted “yep, uh-huh” glance. The kind that lingers.
- Share something sweet. A compliment, a memory, or a “You looked so good yesterday when…”
- Leave a note. On the bathroom mirror, in their bag, or tucked in a lunch box.
- Start a “to be continued” conversation. Plant a thought or story that you can pick up later—bonus points if it’s a little flirty.
If You’re Single, This Still Works
Here’s the thing: romance in reverse isn’t just for couples. You can do this for yourself.
Yes—flirt with yourself. Start your day with small acts that make you feel wanted, confident, and glowing. A delicious breakfast, your favorite playlist, wearing a perfume just because.
When you practice self-connection, you radiate an energy that draws others in naturally.
And when someone does come along, you’ll already know how to keep the romance flowing.
The Ripple Effect
When you start the day with connection, it doesn’t just affect your relationship—it changes the way you move through your whole day.
You’ll find yourself smiling more. Laughing easier. Feeling lighter. And that joy? It comes back to your partner, your family, and even strangers you interact with.
Because love, romance isn’t a switch you flip. It’s a current you keep flowing.
So tomorrow morning, before you grab your phone or pour the coffee, pause. Look at each other. Touch. Smile. Play.
Start the spark at sunrise, and watch how much warmer the whole day feels.
With love and a little morning mischief,
Dee Parris
Your Romance Paramedic – Always On Call 💋
